Reb Chanina said: If one sees a well in a dream, he will behold peace.
Reb Chanan said: There are three dreams that signify peace, namely, a river, a bird, and a pot. (Berochos 56b)
Water is symbolic of peace. Two droplets fuse together, intermingling with one another to combine into a single drop. Their previous identity is forgotten as they join together to form one united body. To enact this transformation there is an exchange between the two. The drops engage in a session of give-and-take until they blend. If each droplet were to stand its ground, no mixing would take place, but the nature of water is to permit others to encroach on its turf.
The test of a strong relationship is how well it functions when differences arise. People who can cooperate and contain themselves in favor of the relationship, will find a workable solution. Those who place their own wants front and foremost will likely fail.
If true peace is to take root it is necessary for the parties to exercise restraint. Compromise of one’s desires is the starting point of a successful union. From this core, partnerships will flourish and their synergy will produce results greater than the sum of their parts. But, this is only possible if they begin by limiting the self and sharing the stage.
There are four main categories of Sacrifices: Sin, Guilt, Burnt and Peace. The Burnt Offering is consumed by the Altar in its entirety. The Sin and Guilt Offerings are shared between the Altar and the Priests. The Peace Offering is eaten by the owners, priests and the Altar, each group receives a share. In fact, it is due to its wide distribution that it is named Peace Offering.
They are called Shlomim because they bring about harmony (Sholom), some portions of the sacrifice go to the Altar, to the Kohanim, and to the owner. (Toras Kohanim 3:156)
When the Torah introduces the Peace Offering there is a subtle departure from the standard expression:
“If his offering is a peace zevach” (Vayikra 3:1)
No other Korban is called zevach – a slaughtered animal, only the Peace Offering is referred to as a butchered item. Slaughter is synonymous with the sacrificial Peace Offering (Shemos 18:12, 24:5). Similarly, when Yaakov and Lavan made peace they celebrated by eating ‘slaughter’; once again this word features in the context of reconciliation and creating friendship.
Peace can begin if each party is prepared to slaughter i.e. people are ready to restrict and constrain themselves. When their counterparts are given freedom to express their inner selves it will be possible to harmonize with one another.